Communication

I have a friend who went to a conference where General Relief Society President (for the LDS church) Sister Beck came to talk to the ladies of their stake.  My friend sat down and was excited to hear what more Sister Beck was going to say about Pornography. But when Sister Beck got up she said I am not giving a talk and I have not prepared one. She told all the ladies in the audience that she wanted to turn the time over to them and answer any questions they might have. My friend told me that one lady asked how she could tell if members of her family were looking at porn. My friend said that Sister Beck gave quite a bit of advice on this. But the thing that stood out to me is when she talked about communication. She had told the lady to always have communication open with her family. Talk to them about the dangers or pornography and how addictive it could be. (So in essence TALK ABOUT IT) She also said that it was always good to ask them. But she said you want to ask in a way that it will take them off guard and not give them any time to think and make up a lie. So she said that while you are driving in your car, sitting around watching TV or any other time that it would seem unusual.  Just turn to your spouse or child and say "When was the last time you looked at porn?" it is a simple question that prompts an instance reply and doesn't give them a way to think and lie. You can ask my hubby. I will always ask him at random intervals and I will ask any kids we have, both male or female.